魔兽世界魔羽角鹰兽:人际交往应把握好的十条建议（双语）

人际交往应把握好的十条建议（双语）

Wantto build positive relationships? Then make sure not to commit thefollowing 10 things that disrupt relationships:

     你想建立积极的人际关系吗？那么确保不要做以下十件会毁灭关系的事情。

1. Giving hurtful comments. Are you hurting others byyour lack of tact? You might think that you're being helpful, butyour intentions might have hurt the other party instead. Putyourself in others'shoes first. If it's not a comment youappreciate hearing yourself, then perhaps it's not something otherswill appreciate either.

1. 给伤害性的评论。你曾经因为缺乏机智而伤害过他人吗？你可能觉得你是在帮别人，但是你可能伤害别人。首先，替别人想想。如果你不愿意听到那个评论，那么对于别人而言，可能也不愿意。


2. Giving solutions when the person is really looking fora listening ear. Probably an understatement: A lot of timeswhat people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people havesolutions to the problems they are facing – they are just lookingfor someone to share their frustrations with because they have hada long and hard day. I had a friend who would always butt in withsuggestions whenever I shared my frustrations. Our conversationsbecame stifling – in the end I stopped talking about themaltogether because I wasn't getting the refuge I wanted. Be moreconscious of what the other party is looking for, and adjustaccordingly to fit that.

2.给予解决的方法，当别人只是需要一个倾听的对象。可能只是一个保守的结论：很多时候人们只是需要倾诉。实际上，人们对于他们所面对的问题，已经有了解决的方法，他们只是在寻找能与他们分享心事的人，因为他们日子不好过。我有一个好朋友，经常插嘴提建议，当我只是想分享我的沮丧时。我们的对话变得非常沉闷——到最后我停止了诉说，因为我没有寻找到我的避难所。我们应该更加谨慎地去意识到对方需要什么，然后调整自己去适应。

3. Being judgmental; Thinking you are above others. Noone likes to be judged or labeled. If you are constantly judgingothers for what they do/say, it might be good to reflect that uponyourself. Putting someone off doesn't make someone a better person;it just makes him/her appear insecure. Humility is a timelessvirtue that's appreciated by everyone.

3. 具有批判精神，觉得自己高高在上。没有人喜欢被批判或者被贴上标签。如果你不停地评论他人的言行，那么你所评价的内容正好反映了你自己。并不能将别人变成更好的人。这会让别人没有安全感。谦卑是每个人都欣赏的永恒的美德。


4. Being defensive to criticism. How well do yourespond to criticism? Do you become defensive and wall yourself up?Or do you graciously take it into stride and use the criticismconstructively for growth? Learn to deal with criticalpeople — it might be the most important skill youcan ever acquire.

4.远离批评。你是如何看待他人的批评呢？你是对批评敬而远之，置之不理？还是充满感激地倾听，在批评中积极地成长呢？学习与批评你的人相处——这恐怕是你将获得的最重要的技巧。

5. Telling people what to do. Most of us don't like itwhen people try to boss us around. Learning to energize people andget them on board a common vision is more empowering than trying toorder people around.

5. 告诉别人做什么。很多人都不喜欢被别人呼来喝去。学会激励别人，同等地看待别人比对别人呼来喝去更有用。

6. Being aloof; Not being responsive. Ihave experienced situations where acquaintances do not respond tocorrespondences, possibly because they do not see them asimportant. Subsequently I form a very bad impression of them, anddeprioritize their requests when they seek my help lateron.

6. 远离而不响应。我遇到过这样的情形，熟人并不相应的响应，可能他们并不觉得那很重要。结果我对他们形成了差印象，当他们后来找我帮忙时，我就拒绝了。


7. Thinking you know it all. The more I learn, themore I realize what I don't know. There is a wealth of knowledgeout there for us to learn. Thinking you know everything, rejectingnew methods and vehemently insisting on your ways prevents you fromconnecting with others. Be open to trying new things.

7.认为自己知道很多。我学得越多，就越意识到自己知道的太少。有大量的知识，等待着我们去学习。认为自己什么都知道，拒绝尝试新的方法，激烈的坚持自己的方式将会使你与他人隔绝。大胆的去尝试新鲜的事物吧。

8. Being a complainer. It's okay to complain everyonce in a while, but doing it all too often puts off people.Complaining too much makes you an energy vortex—it becomes drainingto be around you. People like to be around positive people, notenergy vampires. If you are one, it's not too late to change —startby focusing on positive things around you and work fromthere.

8. 抱怨。偶尔抱怨没什么事，但是如果你经常这样将会让别人很反感。抱怨太多会让你陷入能量漩涡——会使你的精力殆尽。人们喜欢被积极的人围绕，而不是精力吸血鬼。如果你是其中之一，那么什么时候改变都不晚——从现在开始关注积极的事物吧。

9. Not followingup on things you agreed on. One of my pet peeves is when peopledon't follow up on things they agree on (be it appointments,favors, etc). I think it makes them unreliable and leaves a verybad taste in my mouth. These are the same people that I make a notenot to work with in the future.

9.不跟从自己先前的观点。其中一个我无法忍受的事是人们不认同他们之前同意的约定或是想法。我认为这让他们变得不可靠，我对他们的评价非常差。这些人同样是我以后工作中不想与之合作的人。

10. Notlistening. Are you present in your conversations with others?Or is your mind on something else? When conversing with someone,learn to not only listen, but listen actively. Seek out theunderlying message behind what someone is saying.

10.不会倾听。在与别人的交谈中，你是否认真在听？或者你的心思已经跑到别人地方去了。当我们与别人交谈时，我们不仅要学会倾听，更要积极的倾听。试图去寻找说话者隐藏的信息。